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How to contact a dating site to report bad behaviour.

 

HELP PAGES, FROM SOME OF THE TOP DATING SITES

A dating site’s contact page should have a form, link, or email where you can report any problems — or if you need to report a member with suspicious behavior or who is annoying or harrassing you.
HERE are some of the contact and help pages for the top online dating sites:

eHarmony:
General questions — http://www.eharmony.com/about/news/contact/
Customer Care — http://help-singles.eharmony.com/app/answers/detail/a_id/3661

To Report Concerns about a match to eHarmony, send an email to: [email protected]

Match.com:
Safety Tips, and How To Report a User — http://www.match.com/help/safetytips.aspx?lid=4

Chemistry.com:
Contact Us/Customer Care, and Phone No. — http://www.chemistry.com/help/contactform

FriendFinder Sites

1. Friendfinder:
To Report Abuse, or affiliate advertising abuse — http://www.friendfinder.com/p/help.cgi
Contact Customer Service — http://www.friendfinder.com/p/help.cgi?contact=1&who=r,w_HpWuhI9ZoOxS1WuHnAd9QI5stx/UojRnraCgVQDseUTyPJI09Cz/jBS5w6k3xK4lqJ4Rq27IFHY5GgeFfSE_ZpY0BuxlyUWR0jJNATXzsYwAJ2wG3GXW4WhFF5Tlgy

2. BigChurch.com: To Report Abuse, click the link on the front page, or go directly to:
http://bigchurch.com/go/page/abuse.html?abuse_fromip=&abuse_pwsid=&abuse_date_registered=&abuse_pid=&abuse_handle=&abuse_status=&abuse_level=&who=r,mGj7kfO9/LpkY7JnlbimpcNHh6s6HuxIWMmdm4WYpOCIu6loO3Yu1Vdae8gVyzxczDnLFOCORssXcZTCb/XhEQWVVlQ1f0TwjKVwQ4JjgyKLQ6JGy3Qku5NELPCVR4nf

ChristianCafe.com:
Contact Page — http://www.christiancafe.com/guests/contact/index.jsp?

ChristianSingles.com:
Scam Prevention — http://www.christiansingles.com/scam-prevention/
To Contact Support by email, or use the Live Support toolwhich is in upper right-hand corner — http://www.christiansingles.com/support/

Lavalife.com:
There is a “Contact Us” link on front page, which opens a contact form — http://www.lavalife.com

PlentyofFish.com:
http://www.pof.com/faq_privacy.aspx

CatholicSingles.com:
http://www.catholicsingles.com/new/contact.html

Spark Sites

1. Spark.com — Safety pages, with Email to notify administration of problems: http://wwwspark.com/safety/
Send an email to [email protected], or call: 1-888-854-3803. You can also click on the “Report” link within a member’s profile if you notice problematic or suspicious behavior from that member.

2. JDate.com — Safety Page: http://www.jdate.com/safety/
— To Report Suspicious activity on site, send an email to: [email protected]
or Call 1-877-453-3861

3. BlackSingles.comhttp://www.blacksingles.com/safety/

4. CatholicMingle.comhttp://www.CatholicMingle.com/contact.html

5. SilverSingles.comhttp://www.silversingles.com/contact.html

PeopleMedia Sites

1. OurTime.com:
Reporting or Blocking a Member — http://www.ourtime.com/v3/help?CPSessionID=9c2c754a-3830-4ea1-96f9-5fdeeb7fd435&VisitorID=1223454846

2. BlackPeopleMeet.com:
Reporting or Blocking a Member — http://www.blackpeoplemeet.com/v3/help?CPSessionID=fa70dd7e-dc2b-4596-8192-3dd94b85e335&VisitorID=849490999

All Other Sites:
Look for a “Dating Safety” link, where there is usually a way to reach the site administrators, or a “Contact Us” link, or Customer Service links. Clicking one of those should take you to an email address or a contact form you can use.

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The best way to combat being stalked, annoyed or harrassed online is to prevent it. Follow smart guidelines to stay anonymous online.
But if your personal information has been stolen or was simply found by someone who’s using it in an illegal way — and harrassment is, definitely, illegal — in these links you may find some solutions to help protect yourself and your privacy, in addition to help you receive from reporting it to the authorities.

1. http://lovegoodbadugly.com/being-harassed-online/
This is an excellent list of things to do about someone harrassing you online, or if someone has hacked into your email, or is bothering you on a social networking site.

2. https://www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs14-stk.htm
A checklist for anyone who believes or knows they are being stalked. It includes some specific laws for California.

3. http://www.dummies.com/how-to/content/online-dating-dilemma-dishing-out-rejection.html
For Online Dating Site users, a great guide on how to deal with people on the site, when you aren’t interested and need to ask them to stop emailing.

4. http://dating.about.com/od/onlinedating/qt/datingscams.htm
Dating Scams — About.com’s advice on how to recognize and deal with online dating scams.

5. Protecting Your Personal Information Online, for Teenagers:
http://www.nnedv.org/docs/SafetyNet/NNEDV_TechSavvyTeens_English.pdf

People of all ages, not simply teens, should take a look at this page, because it states clearly a lot of specific dangers and ways your information can get stolen, or copied, or spread over the internet by ordinary means that you weren’t aware of.

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CYBERSTALKING

Every state has an anti-stalking law. HERE is a page with links to many of those laws, by state.:
http://www.ncsl.org/issues-research/telecom/cyberstalking-and-cyberharassment-laws.aspx

Example: California: allows stalking victims to file both civil and criminal complaints against stalker. Also, victim can request the Calif. DMV to keep their auto registration and driver’s license records from being released to anyone other than government and law enforcement officials, certain financial institutions, insurers and attorneys.
In the workplace, an employer can request a restraining order against a stalker, on behalf of an employee.

There are laws against interstate stalking (contacting you from another state in a harassing way, or using tech to stalk you while they are in another state)
and federal law against stalking as well, that apply within a state, tribe or territory.

It is also a crime to use a phone or other telecommunications device to harass, annoy or threaten another person in any interstate call, or in a call from outside the country.

**In at least 28 states there are “address confidentiality” programs. This offers a no-cost mail forwarding program for victims of domestic violence and stalking victims, so their home address is protected. However sometimes a state will only provide this for driver’s licenses and voter register information.

**HERE is a chart with information on those state programs. It is a few years old. You can ask a court representative or law enforcement official (someone who deals with domestic violence in an official capacity, for example) for updated information for your state if you don’t find enough here.
http://www.victimsofcrime.org/docs/src/state-address-confidentiality-programs.pdf?sfvrsn=0

HERE is a place to visit to try to limit your phone number and address from being captured and listed in internet databases: (You have to contact major listers and request that your info be deleted.)
https://www.privacyrights.org/online-information-brokers-list

HERE is an excellent list of safety cautions for victims of stalking or violence. If your harassment has been limited to online, you should read #19 and on, in particular.
https://www.privacyrights.org/fs/fs14-stk.htm#4